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The importance of staying connected

Posted Glen MulcahyPosted in Athlete, Coach, Organization Executive, Parents

 

 

 

For years we have been advocating the importance for coaches to connect with their players (AKA – Athlete Centred or Transformational Coaching) and I can’t emphasize the importance now for coaches to do so.

Although all sports continue to practice “wait and see” approach across the globe in adherence of physical distancing mandates by health and government authorities, those at all levels of youth sports should take this time to ensure they stay connected with their players, and their players stay connected with their teammates.

As I referenced in prior posts, I have been against the term social distancing from the get go, although we can not play games, go to practices or other team activities, we can and must stay socially connected.

I have talked to several coaches the last couple of weeks who were anxious to start up their spring seasons in baseball, softball, lacrosse and when I asked them if they were still having team meetings or providing their players things they could do at home I was stunned when all said no … we are crossing our fingers we will be able to play in May, June etc.

To which I said …

What are you waiting for?

Your players need you more than ever now, as do your players need to stay connected with their teammates.

Yes, this is an unprecedented time in the history of the globe where no sports are being played I can’t emphasize enough how important it is for you to be that transformational coach your players are looking for.

Some tips to do so:

 

 

# 1 – Set up regular Team Meetings via Zoom via free account – you can do so for free for 40 minutes at a time to stay in touch with your players.  Ask open-ended questions like “how are you all feeling, how are you doing” to permit them to share vs. yes, no answers

Some of the more introverted players on your team will probably be the last to contribute but the more they know you and their teammates have their back, the more they will open up.

#2 – Setup one on one’s video chats via other platforms like Skype (remember the good old days), WhatsApp to ask them to share with you directly and so you, in turn, can remind them the importance of regular routine, focusing on school and other activities like art, band

#3 – Ask them the following so can create player profiles to have a deeper connection with your athletes when you are able to return back to play

  1. What do you miss the most?
  2. Why do you play?
  3. What don’t you like?
  4. What are the characteristics you want from your teammates?
  5. What are your personal goals?
  6. What do we want to accomplish as a team?

This is an exercise I have done with all of my teams over the years so that we could create our core team values as headed into the season and it also helped us get thru the storming period much faster

#4 – In addition to checking in on your players, I encourage you in your weekly virtual meetings to discuss the core values identified and focus on one per week

The first ones I would recommend that you touch on are;

Respect – What is it and who should they respect?

Sportsmanship – What are examples of good and poor sportsmanship?

What does winning with humility and losing with dignity mean?

Selflessness – Gratitude – Leadership – Communication – Work Ethic – Honesty – Integrity

Mindfulness – Praise – Thoughtfulness – Fearlessness – Awareness – Sacrifice – Trust

And numerous others that you wish to instill as part of your core values as a team, but also teach valuable life lessons and character of your players to develop them into adults

# 5 – Talk about nutrition – why it is important for them to eat healthy not just when they are in season, but year-round and especially now.  Reinforce the importance for them to come to have their own full water bottle for all team activities when they do return

#6 – Reinforce the importance  regular schedule, doing their virtual school work, homework, reading and getting 60 minutes of activity a day, going to sleep and waking up at regular times (vs. binge-watching Netflix, playing until all hours and sleeping until noon)

#7 – Share examples of drills they can do on their own at home via youtube or other platforms to continue working on their skills

#8 – Reinforce the importance of staying connected with their teammates to continue to develop team chemistry … they can do so by face time, WhatsApp, Skype, or other video platforms as texting, messenger, or better yet … a phone call (what’s that you say?)

#9 – I also encourage you to take this opportunity to have regular check-ins with your player’s parents to share any updates from your leagues when and how they foresee will return to play as well as sharing your insight so they are engaged

#10 –  Ensure that you include all of your coaches in meetings as well and connect with them on a regular basis separately as we are all in this together, they may have things going on they don’t want to share with players or even fellow coaches

Most importantly, as many of us are struggling potentially with finances when you, your partners have been laid off, seen significant reductions in revenues for small businesses, ensure that you try to stay as positive as possible for all of your kids (if you are parent coach, you now have a very large family)

Be that positive role model that your players need more than ever and when you are able to return back to play by doing so you will have done what the greatest coaches of all time have done … they cared about their players.

 

PS Tagline - Dont be a kids last coach

Why I Coach

Posted Glen MulcahyPosted in Athlete, Coach, Organization Executive, Parents

One of the exercises that I do with coaches is asking them “Why do you Coach” and this past weekend I was running a clinic with 45 rep (competitive stream) hockey coaches and as we went around the room coaches shared similar answers to what I had heard before that I highlighted in prior blog post “Why Do you Coach” starting with the #1 answer they have kids playing followed by giving back, paying forward, had great coaches, love of the game, passion etc.

One coach shared something I had never heard before…

“I’m Coaching because I had 3 coaches

that touched my Heart.”

I said to myself “WOW” and then immediately starting thinking about all the great coaches, as well as teachers, I had and the impact they had on me.

We all coach for a myriad of different reasons, when I first started coaching was due to the fact I wanted to give back, then it was my kids, then learned after adopting hundreds of kids over the years our calling as coaches was to make a difference developing youth into adults.

The one that I never thought of until I heard what the coached shared, was the impact that coaches and a few teachers had on me while I was growing up.

I was born in Montreal and of course the first sport I played was Ice Hockey, but due to my father’s job we moved literally every year so he could be very close to govt buildings he managed so I played in different associations, was in different schools but the one constant was my love for sports.

Each year that we moved, I had different coaches (my father only tried to coach my baseball team one year but barely made it due to work commitments) and two coaches and one teacher really stood out for me.

COACH RON – Peewee Hockey Coach

The first was when we made our initial roots in Vancouver, BC where I played for yet another MHA and due to my Dads work commitments and fact that my mother did not drive due to prior accidents she had, the only way I could get to practices, games in Hockey was thanks to my coach.

Gone are those days due to Graham James and all other sexual abuse issues since where coaches can drive players by themselves, but I vividly remember those trips, particularly to road games where the coach would share so many life lessons like reinforcing the importance of values like respect, sportsmanship, winning with humility, losing with dignity, hard work, commitment etc that I hold dear today.

Thanks COACH.

COACHES JIM AND FRANK – Bantam Football Coaches

Fast forward a few years later, three more schools, houses, MHA’s later and we returned back to the home my parents purchased in the Vancouver area and I was now 13 years old in Grade 8.  Thanks to all the schools and teams I was on, I was apprehensive of becoming friends with anyone but did end up hanging out with a group of guys that became my “friends” that and the following year.

By the time we got to the summer break between Grade 9 and 10, however, those friends were bringing me down the wrong path, they were doing drugs, drinking alcohol, vandalism, B&E’s and other criminal activities and my football coaches got wind of it and two pulled me aside during one of our two a days we had in June.

One was the receivers coach, Jim, the other was the defensive coordinator, Frank, and they sat me down on one of the benches and started to challenge me what I aspired to do with my life.

I was like “huh”, I am 15, who knows.

They then shared they knew the group of guys that I was hanging around with, that many had already been thrown into juvenile detention and were going the wrong way.

Then Frank said to me “Big Red” (my nickname), you have a choice to make, you can either continue hanging out with the juvenile delinquents or you can become part of our family but you can’t have both.

Look out at the field he said, those guys are your family (my 39 brothers on my football team).

Choose.

Then they stopped talking and just waited for me to speak and I was like, what, I can’t play football and hang out with my buds?

They waited.

I then had an Epiphone moment and realized they were right, I was going nowhere with my then druggie and delinquent peer group and I LOVED sports so I told them, ok, I choose the team.

They both then said, good, get back to practice and from that day forward I worked my butt off with all of my brothers and that year we won the provincial championship (when there was only ONE to be one before multiple tiers for community and high school football)

Thanks COACHES.

 

MRS. STATZ – Grade 12 French Honours teacher

The third was not a coach, but the teacher of my French Honours class in my last year of high school.

My mother did her best to raise me and my brother but both he and I had part-time jobs to help with expenses, pay for sports and what she called “luxury” items like Nike Running shoes (vs. generic shoes) or name brand clothes vs. Zellers etc.

I remember working my Pizza Driver shift until 1130PM on a Sunday then groggily got to my first class for French and just as we all had gotten seated, she (Mrs. Statz) announced we were going to have surprise Quiz as we needed to continue preparing for the Provincial Exam.

To which I said F…. That.

(My Lizard Brain kicked in again in part as I was going thru a tough time having lost my father at such a young age)

To which she said, Mr. Mulcahy, Get your Ass out of My Class!!!!

I grabbed my jacket, binder and headed out of class and once in the hallway heard the door SLAM and thought she was in the classroom but as I turned around she was standing there.

She then went on to go up one side of me, down the other side how disrespectful I was using foul language, towards her but also how much potential I had to go onto University and so on.

I was speechless, but then apologized and had another lightbulb moment that she was right.  I was just coasting thru all of my courses, smart enough to get B’s without a lot of effort but was not even thinking about University, all that was on my mind then was work, sports, parties, girls etc.

THANKS MRS. STATZ

Two Coaches – One Teacher who touched my Heart.

Cared about me in different ways, steered me in a different direction and had it not been for them and all other coaches and teachers I had along the way I never would have committed to applying and completing my degree at UBC.

When I received my degree, my mother and Nanny rented a Limousine to come to see the ceremonies, one of my favorite pictures (which is buried in a trunk with others) is me with my Nanny (another huge influencer in my life)

When we went for a bite to eat, my Nanny and Mother gave me the graduation ring pictured below (shot from a smartphone) and they shared with me how proud they were as I was the first cousin from two large families, 9 siblings on one side, 5 on the other with multiple kids (first cousins) to have graduated from University.

 

I still wear the ring proudly to this day, not just to celebrate my graduation, but to remember my Nanny and Mother who sadly passed away.

Had it not been for the coaches and my teacher, my Nanny and Mother who knows where I would have ended up.

“That is Why I coach.”

To have the same impact in helping kids make those important decisions so they stay out of harm’s way, learn life lessons and not only become the best athletes they can be, but the best people the can be.

This is why one of my favorite quotes of all time is the spin-off of Teddy Roosevelts by Pat Summit (one of the GOATS)

Pat Summit – Almost 1100 NCAA Div I wins (#1 at the time she retired) – 8 National Championships

If you aspire to be the best coach you can be,  touch the hearts of your players and ensure that the legacy is a positive one so you are not a Kid’s Last Coach.

 

 

 

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